Powai-based psychotherapist Hvovi Bhagwagar, talks of a patient whose mother once embarrassed her at a party. “My patient had thrown a party for her colleagues. Her mother made an unflattering remark about a colleague’s weight, comparing the young woman to an old TV actress. She was so hurt, she cut off all relations with my patient.”
Bhagwagar says, here in India, we are reluctant to tell our parents off for fear of hurting or disrespecting them, which is indeed a valid concern. Instead, she suggests you strike a balance. Explain to them that casual remarks, especially those that concern professional relationships, have to be duly weighed before being shared.
Featured in Mumbai Mirror, August 21, 2013.